Our culture continues to shun the butthole. Yet this taboo part of the body is often the main focus of people’s sexual fantasies and is glorified in porn and rap songs. Yet society imposes the idea that it’s filthy or gay to try anal play. Well, that isn’t true. The gooch and anus contain thousands of nerve endings.

In Taoist practices, the perineum is an essential sexual landmark that contains a holy spot of stimulation; the “million-dollar-point.”

People use sex as a way to feel pleasure and a connection with their partner. All sexual orientations can enjoy anal stimulation.

Mixing things up with anal play can be a tricky route to explore. It means more than just busting in through the backdoor.

As with all sexual acts, consent is essential in getting the juices flowing between partners. No one should be pressured into doing anything in the bedroom.

When it comes to exploring new realms, be clear about what you want to try and be open to hear concerns or enthusiasm.

With the ass clear for exploration, being aroused beforehand is best. When going down on women, it’s particularly easy to transfer from cunnilingus to “rimming.” Yes, it can be done, and it’s OK.

Any concern about the cleanliness of the orifice can be navigated with communication and preparation.

When it comes to penetration, there are precautions which need to be taken to ensure the receiver’s enjoyment. Rectums don’t produce their own lubrication like vaginas, said sexologist and blogger Dr. Kat Van Kirk from the America College of Sexologists. This makes them vulnerable to tears, so a water-based lubricant is suggested.

This is a sensitive part of the body and needs warming up. Start with fingers and work your way up from there as your partner starts to feel more comfortable. Remember, lots of lube and reapply as needed.

Take things slow and have plenty of time set aside as to not feel rushed. Any form of anal play can feel vulnerable. Having a solid foundation of trust is crucial.

“Truffle butter” may sound appealing, but this cross-contamination is a surefire way to spread bacteria, which leads to genital infections like UTIs. If you want to proceed, clean up after the deed.

Anytime semen is in close proximity to the vagina, the potential for pregnancy exists; STIs can also be contracted from anal. Use condoms.

The backdoor isn’t always unlocked, but it’s good to know of its needs in case the house of lovemaking invites you to enter through the back entrance.