Dear Mojette,

I think my girlfriend of three years is cheating on me. I understand you probably get a lot of questions like this, but how do I confront her without making myself look jealous or insecure? I love “Terry” from the bottom of my soul and it kills me to know she may be with another man. I’ll even forgive her for her sins, that’s how much I’m in love with her. But, I want the truth and I want it now before it’s too late. I really don’t think I can live without her. Please help.

-Needing the truth,

Santa Rosa

Dear Needing,

First off, there is really no way to confront your girlfriend about her possible infidelities without making yourself look insecure or jealous. If you want the truth, you need to give her the truth. Let her know how you feel about the possibilities of her cheating. Hint how much you do love her and how you’re willing to forgive her even if she did. This will help ease the burden off her (if she is cheating), and tell you the truth. If she isn’t cheating and you ask her about this, she is going to get extremely offended. Assure to her that you love her and give her little facts about why you would assume that she was cheating. Such as: you don’t talk very much anymore, or it just doesn’t seem romantic anymore. That will hopefully calm her down a bit. Good luck!

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Mojette,

You seem to be a love advice know-it-all and frankly, I’m tired of it. You sit here, and pull advice out of your you-know-what but do you really have an understanding for love and romance? How is YOUR love life Miss Mojette? How come you seem to hate men? Are you an angry feminist? Do you have any idea what it’s like to be a man? Do you know how hard it is to try not to give in to temptation? You seem to think all men are out to get you! You’re crazy! I think you need to lighten up, stop thinking all men are scum and really help us guys! It’s hard you know?

-Men,

Santa Rosa

Men,

First off, my love life is none of your business. It would be different if I wrote to myself asking for advice and making it public, but clearly I am not. Men and women write to me asking me to help solve their problems. They make it my business to help them through the pain and happiness of a relationship. To answer your other questions, no, I don’t know what it’s like to be a man. But I can see through some relationships my friends are in, or past ones I’ve been in, that some men do in fact suck. But on the contrary, some women do as well. I don’t think men are out to get me, and there are some really nice guys out there. You’re not scum. Chauvinistic and pig-headed maybe. But not scum. And if you look up at the first question, I did help a guy out. So I’m not the angry feminist you believe I am. Thanks!

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